January is a new month and year which makes a whole new start. Having cerebral palsy shouldn't stop anyone from making new year resolutions. I like Christmas time, but I also always liked opening a brand new calendar to write down my New Years resolutions. I rarely complete all of them, but writing my goals down helps keep me on track. Having goals keeps you moving ahead and obtaining achievements. Big or small resolutions doesn't matter as long as you make them and not give up when they start being difficult.
Here is a suggested list of new year resolutions that might inspire you to make your own. Don't ever be afraid to reach high for goals. It doesn't mean you have to complete all of them, but puts you on the fast track of success.
Look back at the previous year and see what you can improve on or complete. Is there a bad relationship or unhealthy friendship that you should end? A bad habit that you are ready to drop? Maybe you have things that you need to finish but you kept putting it off. Now is the time to tie up any lose ends so you can move on to a new beginning.
Not being able to walk or physically do something gives people the perfect excuse to not exercise. I know because I've done it too but as long as you can move at least one body part, you can exercise. Call your local gyms and YMCA to see if they have any exercise equipment that you can use. Perhaps they can order it for you. Join an exercise class and do what you can. Stop the excuses because we all know having a disability doesn't mean you can't exercise. It only means that you need to adapt your routine.
Get all your medical appointments scheduled and actually go to them. Having cerebral palsy can make going to the doctor feel exhausting. However, putting off serious tests can have very dangerous results.
What are your professional goals? Sometimes disabilities can make us forget that we do have value aspects to contribute to society. Technology and the Internet has made career goals so much more obtainable. Ignore the fear and just do whatever it is that you love. No more excuses because life is too short to waste.
Love more. When I say love more, I'm talking about loving others and yourself. Are you in a relationship that gives to you what you deserve? Are you giving to the relationship what they deserve? Thinking about others, making time and helping others are the way to happiness.
Get aquatinted back to physical, occupational, and speech therapies that will improve your life. Therapy might be hard work, but it also pays off. No pain, no gain and that is the simple truth.
Choose happiness. Getting wrapped up in self pity and laziness are just too easy to do. Happiness isn't a gift from someone else. Happiness is a gift you give yourself every day. If you're a miserable person, then you tend to attract miserable people into your life. However, if you choose to find joy in life, you'll attract joyful people. Do things that make you feel happy. Let go of thinking everyone is out to get you. Look for the good in people instead of the bad. Drop drama and make the right choices so you avoid drama. Be happy.
I hope you have a pleasant, successful, friendly, and happy year. Focus positively and look on the bright side. Smile and open your hear to love, forgiveness, and hard work.
originally posted by Jessica Grono on Cerebral Palsy News Today
My very sweet daughter, Laura, received this ransom. I hope she can comply because I'm sure her electronics miss her as much as she misses them.
Your IPad and iPhone are being held hostage until you meet MY demands:
Only after all are complete without complaint and checked by me, you can have electronics back.
Now that summer is closer than ever and your Pre Kindergarten student is going off to Kindergarten in a few months, now is the time to get them ready. I'm positive that you taught them about making friends, sharing and kindness. I'm sure you're also wondering where did the time go? But now is the time to practice getting children ready to take care of their own needs.
When a child can be more independent then they have greater self esteem and confidence. They won't need to ask for help constantly, and they can help others. The teacher will appreciate you totally for spending time to teach these basic skills.
Have fun teaching your children these essential tasks this summer!
Even though my children were young when I had my breast cancer diagnosis, I knew that they wanted to be there for me. I have completed a bit of research on the parent child relationship as far as cancer. One of the biggest questions most children have no matter what their age is how can I help my mom through cancer?
No matter how old you might be, hearing that your mother has cancer can be scary and almost devastate you emotionally. Your mom has been with you your entire existence, and the idea of losing her seems almost impossible. But please keep in mind that a breast cancer diagnosis is not an automatic death sentence not by a long shot. Survival rates are increasing by the day and so are new treatment options with researchers working around the clock. Breathe and think with cautious optimism.
Before we talk about the specifics of how you can help your mother, I want to tell you what your mom needs more than anything. Your mother wants you to take care of yourself and never quit on your goals. Yes, she wants you to be there for her and see you. However, she does not want you to stop your life by helping her with her life. As a mother who had cancer, I wanted my children to have fun and keep their normal routine as much as possible. I had children so they would grow to be strong and independent, kind people. It would have killed me if they were crying all of the time or constantly worried about my health.
With that said, now I will tell you of the other things that you can do to help your mom during her breast cancer battle.
Be there for her - As your time allows, visit your mom and talk to her. You can talk about feelings and fears. Be honest and open. By having you being honest, she will feel more comfortable being honest with you. You don't need to constantly talk either. You can play games, cook together, go to the mall, go to an event or work on a project together. If you don't live that close, call and text her when you can. Send her get well or cheer up cards. Write her emails. She needs to know that you are out there caring for her the best way that you are able.
Help at home - Lend a hand in any services at home. Cook meals, clean the house or do some laundry. Try to ask her what would be the best way to help.
Open your ears and heart - Sadly, you might not always agree with your mom's options for treatment. You might want her to do one thing and she might want to do the complete opposite. Feel free to express your concerns and reasons for why you think that she should do a certain treatment, but never force her to do what you want. Only her doctor and she knows what her body can take.
Spend the time - A cancer diagnosis has a way of making you quickly remember that we are all on Earth for a limited time. Take the time with your mom. Write down memories, take the pictures, memorize the details. Love her and thank her for all she has done. Let her know the positive ways that she has shaped your life. Ask all the questions that you need to.
Become an informed advocate - Take the time to research her type of breast cancer, her doctors, the hospital, nurses and treatments. Education is always key, and if you are going to be her advocate, you must be informed. Offer to go with her for medical consultations, remind her about second opinions, and be present whenever you can for treatments.
Your mother loves you more than anything and knows your heart. Just breathe and try to do whatever you can and learn what you can. You can do this because she loves you.
originally published by Jessica Grono on breastcancernewstoday.com
Leggings are all the rage right now. I like my leggings because they are comfortable, soft and pleasant to wear. They can go with many articles of clothing and great for a very busy lifestyle such as a busy mom.
I'm always on the lookout for good deals as well. Some legging companies, I feel are way overpriced for what they are. I noticed last year that my cousin's wife was selling a leggings brand called Buskins. They are a lot cheaper plus the same quality as the other brand. You can also pick what you want from a site and have more of a selection in solid colors.
I'm on the floor a lot with my children. The wear and tear on my Buskins have been fabulous. They stay true to their comfort and size. Speaking of sizes, they come in One Size which is size 3-14. Pluskins size is 14-20. I've had no issues with sizes.
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Every child is different. Whenever a parent potty trains their child, everyone seems to have an opinion, experience or idea. Laura was easy to potty train because she was mentally ready and enthusiastic. Her body wasn't quite ready and that was the hardest part. Jason wanted nothing to do with potty training. At first, he seemed a bit excited but it was short lived.
We tried everything! By the time he was three and a half, I felt determined to potty train him before he went to pre school. I knew that he could use the potty, but I had to get him there. While looking up techniques online, I stumbled on the Three Day Potty Training site. Her video enticed you but the online book seemed way too expensive. I thought if I had to spend the money, it'll be worth it but I checked out Amazon. Low and behold, it was a lot cheaper so I bought it for my Kindle.
I read the book within about twenty minutes. And, the method is so simple and made complete sense that you're left thinking- why didn't I think of that? I discussed it with Jeff who agreed it sounded like a great idea. We couldn't start immediately. We had to buy incentive toys, small rewards, marbles and lots more underwear. I also started on a Monday and week that I knew I could give complete attention to training.
Long story short- it worked wonders. It took him a little longer than three days but paitience, consistently and kindness got us through. Below is the method we used, and I hung it in our kitchen for everyone helping Jason. Best tip I know is don't use pull ups - they slow the process. If we didn't use them, I bet Jason would've been potty trained so much quicker.
Three Day Potty Training
Monday to Thursday but might be longer
We need to not go anywhere with Jason for three days. No errands etc.
Monday morning - he throws away his pull up and then together, we gather all of the pull ups and diapers in the house,car and diaper bag to donate for other families. He helpsand we tell him that diapers are for babies and Jason is a big boy.
Jason wears underwear and comfy, easy clothes.
We show Jason a new toy that he wants on the counter and a small jar with marbles. When he uses the potty, we let him put the marble in the jar. When the jar is full, he gets the toy.
When Jason seems to begin an accident, take him to the bathroom ASAP.
Never be negative. If an accident happens, we simply say, "Jason, remember to tell me when you need to use the potty."
He can get stickers after using the potty..
Our job is to watch Jason and recognize signs of needing to go. We never just sit on the potty to try because that frustrates him.
If he resists sitting on the potty, then just get him into the bathroom. Never use force or sound mad. After awhile, he will get comfortable.
We push liquids to get him to go. We want him to go lots so he practices and learns
He should go before and after nap. Hold back liquids before sleep.
The biggest key is never show frustration or anger. Only praise!! Even if he has 20 accidents a day.
For going poo, he will receive a "magic wand" to hold when he sits and it won't be scary.
Jason can and will do this! We just need to keep positive, focused and be with him!
Summer is such a fun time of year. But so many parents are worried about the expense. With camp, trips and vacations things can add up quickly! Here are forty of my suggestions to enjoy summer without breaking the bank.
Being a mom is awesome but it can be the hardest job on the planet. We are always trying to do better and be the mom that we imagined. How about taking the twenty day mom challenge and see where it leads? Feel free to adjust it and start again.
Day 1 - Put everything down when your child wants to talk and listen to your child fully.
Day 2 - Give hugs, kisses and high fives like crazy!
Day 3 - Build a fort together and read books or be silly.
Day 4 - Laugh more than you get angry. Try and find the humor in life.
Day 5 - Play music to sing and dance.
Day 6 - Play board games together.
Day 7 - Take a nice long walk to discuss feelings.
Day 8 - Make a scrapbook together and add to it.
Day 9 - Play in their room together and focus on fun.
Day 10 - Play outside often.
Day 11 - Try not to yell an entire day.
Day 12 - Cook together and make your fabulous dessert.
Day 13 - Laugh and enjoy being a mom.
Day 14 - Only say positive comments and often.
Day 15 - Try a new adventure together.
Day 16 - Make a new game up together.
Day 17 - Talk and listen as they snuggle in bed.
Day 18 - Pack a picnic and go to three playgrounds.
Day 19 - Remember the mom that you always wanted to be and do it..
Day 20 - Ask your child what they would like to do and try to make it happen.