January is a new month and year which makes a whole new start. Having cerebral palsy shouldn't stop anyone from making new year resolutions. I like Christmas time, but I also always liked opening a brand new calendar to write down my New Years resolutions. I rarely complete all of them, but writing my goals down helps keep me on track. Having goals keeps you moving ahead and obtaining achievements. Big or small resolutions doesn't matter as long as you make them and not give up when they start being difficult.
Here is a suggested list of new year resolutions that might inspire you to make your own. Don't ever be afraid to reach high for goals. It doesn't mean you have to complete all of them, but puts you on the fast track of success.
Look back at the previous year and see what you can improve on or complete. Is there a bad relationship or unhealthy friendship that you should end? A bad habit that you are ready to drop? Maybe you have things that you need to finish but you kept putting it off. Now is the time to tie up any lose ends so you can move on to a new beginning.
Not being able to walk or physically do something gives people the perfect excuse to not exercise. I know because I've done it too but as long as you can move at least one body part, you can exercise. Call your local gyms and YMCA to see if they have any exercise equipment that you can use. Perhaps they can order it for you. Join an exercise class and do what you can. Stop the excuses because we all know having a disability doesn't mean you can't exercise. It only means that you need to adapt your routine.
Get all your medical appointments scheduled and actually go to them. Having cerebral palsy can make going to the doctor feel exhausting. However, putting off serious tests can have very dangerous results.
What are your professional goals? Sometimes disabilities can make us forget that we do have value aspects to contribute to society. Technology and the Internet has made career goals so much more obtainable. Ignore the fear and just do whatever it is that you love. No more excuses because life is too short to waste.
Love more. When I say love more, I'm talking about loving others and yourself. Are you in a relationship that gives to you what you deserve? Are you giving to the relationship what they deserve? Thinking about others, making time and helping others are the way to happiness.
Get aquatinted back to physical, occupational, and speech therapies that will improve your life. Therapy might be hard work, but it also pays off. No pain, no gain and that is the simple truth.
Choose happiness. Getting wrapped up in self pity and laziness are just too easy to do. Happiness isn't a gift from someone else. Happiness is a gift you give yourself every day. If you're a miserable person, then you tend to attract miserable people into your life. However, if you choose to find joy in life, you'll attract joyful people. Do things that make you feel happy. Let go of thinking everyone is out to get you. Look for the good in people instead of the bad. Drop drama and make the right choices so you avoid drama. Be happy.
I hope you have a pleasant, successful, friendly, and happy year. Focus positively and look on the bright side. Smile and open your hear to love, forgiveness, and hard work.
originally posted by Jessica Grono on Cerebral Palsy News Today
If you know me, you might think you may know everything there is to know. But everyone has a few things that you might or might not know about them. Here is a top ten list of things you might not know about Jessica Grono.
Preschool age children are so much fun, and their little minds are going full blast. When a child has cerebral palsy, the fun doesn't need to stop. In fact, they need the stimulation and experiences perhaps even a bit more than someone without cerebral palsy. Love, time and creativity always goes far with children.
Being a parent to a child with cerebral palsy can leave you wanting ideas to help your son or daughter. I compiled a list to help give you some ideas to use with your child as soon as possible. My main bit of advice is to use trial and error. Sometimes what doesn't work one day will work the next day, week or month. It can take awhile to get muscles and brain working together. Have patience, flexibility and commitment to make this process enjoyable for the both of you.
Any time that you can give to your child is so valuable. Activities that keep them moving, reading, and mind stimulating are brilliant to use. Giving them an abundance of love and room to grow are the main things preschoolers need no matter the ability.
originally published by Jessica Grono on Cerebral Palsy News Today
My very sweet daughter, Laura, received this ransom. I hope she can comply because I'm sure her electronics miss her as much as she misses them.
Your IPad and iPhone are being held hostage until you meet MY demands:
Only after all are complete without complaint and checked by me, you can have electronics back.
I Right now I'm sitting on the floor of my hallway with my ten year old daughter in front of me and my four year old son behind me. We should all be in bed, but there are thunderstorms all around us. I blame my cerebral palsy as a main reason why I hate thunderstorms but also several bad experiences with them. I tried hard not to push my fear on them, but it just happened naturally. Laura actually is okay but she's cuddling with our three year old hound dog and keeping us company.
Laura is an excellent sister. When the storm started, she told Jason that God was bowling and had him play bowl in the kitchen as a distraction. Somehow we all ended up here but it's cozy. My lab retriever, Lady, is sleeping at my side. Jason is playing with his truck and watching his iPad - PJ Masks. Laura is watching craft videos. I love our conversations like Jason saying, "Mommy, my monster truck is sad." I told him to tell him everything is ok and he did. I love reassuring Jason and his eyes relax from panic.
Although I know I'll be tired tomorrow, the memories are worth everything. I went in my room and Jason said ,"I'll lay next to Laura because I love her." Then he said if I needed anything to let him know. Now they're both in bed even though storms are around, they aren't as loud and hopefully Jason will fall asleep. I'm going to turn in as well and hopefully will sleep peacefully too.
Jason turned 4 on February 20! It's hard to believe that he is four now. Jason can do so many things and is learning more each day. He is completely potty trained even at night. He knows all of his colors, letters and can count to 20. He is very interested in the clock and tells me what numbers the hands are on. He can dress himself including shoes and jacket. Jason speaks clearly and in sentences. He naps about two hours a day.
Jason loves to play. He asks me several times a day, "Mommy, will you play with me?" He is lovable and extremely active. I think his biggest fan is Laura. Jason loves school and his friends. He wishes that he could go all week. He also has swim class which he's not that into.
Laura is doing very well. She will be ten and a half soon. She is getting very good grades in school. She takes drawing, clarinet and ukulele lessons. Laura also is into the piano. She is very smart and funny. My heart explodes when she says she loves me. Her artwork is amazing.
Now that summer is closer than ever and your Pre Kindergarten student is going off to Kindergarten in a few months, now is the time to get them ready. I'm positive that you taught them about making friends, sharing and kindness. I'm sure you're also wondering where did the time go? But now is the time to practice getting children ready to take care of their own needs.
When a child can be more independent then they have greater self esteem and confidence. They won't need to ask for help constantly, and they can help others. The teacher will appreciate you totally for spending time to teach these basic skills.
Have fun teaching your children these essential tasks this summer!
Coping as a mother with a disability brings a completely unique dimension to motherhood. Let's face the facts - being a good, responsible, loving mother takes a lot of energy and time. Mothers don't get a practice session or any training in knowing how raise your child. You have to learn as you go and use your mistakes as wisdom. Add in a disability and you are lucky enough to have even more wisdom.
Every disability is different especially when it comes to what we can and cannot do for our children. As anyone with a disability knows, we learn how to adapt, change and create new ways of doing tasks. You can't hold your baby and rock them to sleep? OK, have you tried a bouncy seat that vibrates? I absolutely could not live without bouncy seats for both of my babies. I couldn't hold them, but I would have someone sit them in their bouncy seat and I'd get very close. I could talk to them, kiss them and make eye contact. I learned that it was certainly fine to do things in a whole new way as long as my baby was safe and loved.
Being a mother with a disability also means using your strengths at there absolute best. Our strengths can make our weaknesses not seem as apparent. I'm organized and try to foresee any problems or needs my children might have. I also have a vivid imagination so if I can't steer a toy train around my son's wooden track or jump rope with my daughter-I can create a story as they play and be completely present as they play. I can listen to their every word with love and respect. I can encourage their minds, dreams and aspirations. I can setup play dates and fun activities to create lifelong memories. I can be their biggest fan for the rest of my life. I can only hope that what I can do is far more important than what I cannot do for them.
Many people compliment my children positively and think that having a mom with a disability somehow transformed them into being perfect. My children are beautiful, intelligent, kind, funny, and awesome. But, they are still human beings as the rest of us and need guidance. Yes, they probably know the importance of accessibility and wheelchair repair more than the average person. However, my cerebral palsy doesn't consume their life and activities. They live life pretty much as they would regardless of my disability. They might have a broader understanding of differences, more responsible for their belongings because they know I won't pick it up, and be more helpful. They also have typical tantrums, get angry with me over normal things, argue with each other, and do all the normal kid things regardless of my capabilities.
Coping as a mother with a disability isn't too different than any other mother. At the end of the day, I worry if I loved them enough, spent time enough, and listened enough. Sometimes I feel down that I can't run with them, pick them up or just get in a car and take them on an adventure just them and me because I can't drive. But what I can't do as a mother will only push me to succeed in what I can do. At the end of the day, my children hug, kiss me and can't wait to spend another day together so I guess I'm doing a pretty good job.
Even though my children were young when I had my breast cancer diagnosis, I knew that they wanted to be there for me. I have completed a bit of research on the parent child relationship as far as cancer. One of the biggest questions most children have no matter what their age is how can I help my mom through cancer?
No matter how old you might be, hearing that your mother has cancer can be scary and almost devastate you emotionally. Your mom has been with you your entire existence, and the idea of losing her seems almost impossible. But please keep in mind that a breast cancer diagnosis is not an automatic death sentence not by a long shot. Survival rates are increasing by the day and so are new treatment options with researchers working around the clock. Breathe and think with cautious optimism.
Before we talk about the specifics of how you can help your mother, I want to tell you what your mom needs more than anything. Your mother wants you to take care of yourself and never quit on your goals. Yes, she wants you to be there for her and see you. However, she does not want you to stop your life by helping her with her life. As a mother who had cancer, I wanted my children to have fun and keep their normal routine as much as possible. I had children so they would grow to be strong and independent, kind people. It would have killed me if they were crying all of the time or constantly worried about my health.
With that said, now I will tell you of the other things that you can do to help your mom during her breast cancer battle.
Be there for her - As your time allows, visit your mom and talk to her. You can talk about feelings and fears. Be honest and open. By having you being honest, she will feel more comfortable being honest with you. You don't need to constantly talk either. You can play games, cook together, go to the mall, go to an event or work on a project together. If you don't live that close, call and text her when you can. Send her get well or cheer up cards. Write her emails. She needs to know that you are out there caring for her the best way that you are able.
Help at home - Lend a hand in any services at home. Cook meals, clean the house or do some laundry. Try to ask her what would be the best way to help.
Open your ears and heart - Sadly, you might not always agree with your mom's options for treatment. You might want her to do one thing and she might want to do the complete opposite. Feel free to express your concerns and reasons for why you think that she should do a certain treatment, but never force her to do what you want. Only her doctor and she knows what her body can take.
Spend the time - A cancer diagnosis has a way of making you quickly remember that we are all on Earth for a limited time. Take the time with your mom. Write down memories, take the pictures, memorize the details. Love her and thank her for all she has done. Let her know the positive ways that she has shaped your life. Ask all the questions that you need to.
Become an informed advocate - Take the time to research her type of breast cancer, her doctors, the hospital, nurses and treatments. Education is always key, and if you are going to be her advocate, you must be informed. Offer to go with her for medical consultations, remind her about second opinions, and be present whenever you can for treatments.
Your mother loves you more than anything and knows your heart. Just breathe and try to do whatever you can and learn what you can. You can do this because she loves you.
originally published by Jessica Grono on breastcancernewstoday.com
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